Marriage Conference 2016

Assalamualaikum :)

Marriage Conference was held in PICC Putrajaya and I went there with the intention of gaining knowledge. 

Some new facts that I've heard (for me), every 10 minutes, there will be 1 couple that would be getting divorced. Naudzubillahimindzalik.

Many of my favorite international speakers were there! MasyaAllah im so thrilled and excited! Alhamdulillah i get the chance to heard some of their main contents.

The idea of marriage is not always "Happy" or forever "I love u", you know. There will be some miscommunication or arguments as the husband and the wife was raised from different background. The main point is that the purpose of getting married must be the same which is "Lillahita'ala" InsyaAllah.

Both must try to understand each other's role. Its not about "whose the boss" or "who pays the bill" or "who does the work more". Gender is not an issue in the first place like when people have the mind of "female must also work and be equal" or "have equal rights as men does". The first school for every child is their mother. Their role is "not only" to raise the children and stay in the kitchen. They will help the society to be a better place by educating their children with the right content. As had been explained by Islam on at certain age what must we do to raise our children and so on.

Female always have the best place actually in Islam.
"Syurga di tapak kaki ibu" and "no matter how much u've tried to repay ur mom, tak akan mampu lawan dengan setitik peluh dia masa nak lahirkan kita". Can you see how Islam love and respect women? Subhanallah.

Okay next. Before we are getting married surely we'll get engaged insyaAllah. So in that period, try to get to know ur fiance. Here are some of the advise that i still remember:

1. Get to know how s/he is as a person.

2. Who are his/her friend and how is s/he like to his mother.

3.  What is their opinion of getting married (purpose).

4. How is his/her parenting style that s/he prefer.

But do bear in mind that no one is perfect. As long as there are chemistry and youguys are willing to tolerate with each other, InsyaAllah everything's gonna be well.

Not to forget our main role. As His creations. No matter how happy or sad you are, always, Always turn to Him and rely on Him more than anyone in this world. Try to improve urself to be a better person as He have always asked us to be. On the inner and outer part InsyaAllah. 

My own opinion is that what important is when both are willing to help each other to be a better person, better ummah, better creation InsyaAllah. Tolerate and help each other and improve the communication skills are most important thing. Try to solve things as best as we can and forgive and forget InsyaAllah. The main point couples are getting divorced because of lacking of communications. Dont be rough to each other. Its just not right. Screaming and so one is just will make things worse. Both must try to be mature and understand each others situation insyaAllah.

And do remember no one and nothing is this world is perfect. Accept each other's flaws and try to help each other to be a better person InsyaAllah.

Do make du'a for each other may we find the right one for us who are willing to accept each other's flaws and willing to tolerate with each other InsyaAllah. And for those who are maybe currently having difficulties with their married life, may you have the best solution and are willing to forgive and forget each other. As well as may we be able to lower our ego and remember the purpose of getting married InsyaAllah.

Wallahu'alam. 

Definitely Allah knows best.